Life cannot always be smooth. It can’t give you all that you like, or want all the time. There must be some downs. People will promise you things that they may or may not be able to fulfil.
You face disappointment from your fiance or fiancee who walks up to you and says he isn’t interested in the relationship again, or that the proposed wedding is no longer possible.
It may be a financial help that you are expecting from somewhere or someone, but it is no longer possible due to one thing or the other. How do you cope and handle the situation? When you experience disappointment these are ways to cope:
Be More Realistic
Be more realistic that disappointments are bound to happen, and as they occur, they also vanish. As human beings, we must experience disappointments during our lives, but how we cope with them makes a difference.
It is not that you view things from a negative perspective, but expect disappointment from any human being. See that promise from somebody as a fifty-fifty thing. It may be fulfilled or not. If the promise gets fulfilled, thank your God, and if it doesn’t you won’t be disappointed since you had expected it.
Express your Feelings
Anytime you are disappointed ensure you let it out. Cry and talk about it so that the accompanying emotion is dealt with in the first instance.
Communicate about it
When you experience disappointment, talk about it to your family, friends, spiritual leaders and people. But ensure you confide in those who will help alleviate your pain, not those who will aggravate the situation.
Seek Counsellor, Therapist’s Help
You may not be able to handle the situation, so consult a therapist, psychologist or counsellor who will help bail you out from the possible mal-adjustment behaviours like anxiety, and depression that may accompany the stressful situation.
The therapist may need to help you reset your thoughts from a negative perspective to a positive way of viewing things. He may need to walk you through progressive muscle relaxation. He may need to train you on problem-solving skills and some other therapeutic ways to make you cope with the situation.
Adopt Recreational Strategies
It’s not advisable to stay alone or withdraw when you go through disappointment. This can be extremely dangerous because you may slide into some other complicated mental issues like anxiety and depression, and if care is not taken, thoughts of suicide may come in. Just go out and mingle with people, go to recreation centres, and amusement parks and visit places that will relax your mood.
Thank your Creator.
When you are disappointed, express sincere gratitude to your creator. Know that many others are passing through worse situations. So you need to thank God.
You can’t stay bothering your mind with what had already happened which you don’t have control over. You must move on and forget about the past so that you can tap into other good things that will move you forward.
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